5 Signs It is time for new child care
Happy New Year! No this is not a post about resolutions past or present. Although I do want to talk about change. And changing child care can be one of the most daunting tasks a mom can face (you know, outside of all that other scary stuff like medical issues, paying bills and actually raising your kids)! It is one of those tasks that can be easily put off if there is nothing obviously "wrong." Well, friends, let me tell you I was recently in just this situation. We had to let our nanny of two years go very recently, and it was terrible. Terrible because there were so many signs that things were off. Little things that I felt were not exactly right, but you know - hiring a new nanny? Find a daycare? I wasn't even SURE things were wrong. I can tell you, I should have listened to my gut and made the change. To help give you the gut check I should have listened to, here are 5 signs it is time for a new daycare/nanny/Childcare situation!
- "Mommy, YOU stay home!" - I know what you're thinking, this is a pretty typical kid stuff, but I'm talking about your kids making this a persistent topic of conversation. Is your toddler frequently asking you to please just stay home? It's pretty unusual for a small kiddo to harp on a topic like this. If your young kids are begging you not to leave, it's worth taking a look.
- Your nanny/teacher's approach has totally changed. - This one for me is especially tricky. People have bad days, and everyone faces hard times life, so for clarity, I'm talking about a change of more than a week with no obvious cause and no frank discussion of cause. If this is happening, take note.
- Where is the communication? With a nanny in the house, it should be simple to get all the details you want about how the day went. If you are having to ask the same questions over and over again, or the communication about your child's wellbeing is short-cut or repeatedly ignored, buyer beware!
- "Mommy I helped do Laundry Today" - If your kid is telling you things about the day that simply don't seem to add up it is time to at least ask more pointed questions. I have two toddlers, so verbal communication is sometimes an adventure in my house. But, when my three year old explained that they did laundry all day instead of go to the museum as expected - I was surprised, certainly since it was not my laundry that was done. It's important to sort fact from fiction in this instance, but listen to your kid says. It can be so important!
- Your MOM Alarm is Ringing! - This is probably the most important thing of the list and the one that needs NO justification. God armed you with an internal alarm system for when things are off. Your job is to listen to it. You do not need to justify it. If it feels wrong and it involves your children, take action. Even if your partner thinks you're crazy for listening to your feelings. Better safe than sorry!